In this episode, Valerie and Steven reflect upon Steven’s ever-increasing capacity to tolerate sharing his trauma history. He recounts how both work in mindfulness and sharing his ongoing dreams with Valerie helped him heal from wounds carried for almost 60 years. This episode will both warm your heart and give you hope that it is never too late to heal!
Join Valerie and co-host Dr. Todd Frye as they unpack the phenomenon in marriage wherein couples interests may begin to diverge. They look at the nuanced dance between staying deeply united while also developing a sense of self that is vibrant and unique.
Tiffany and Valerie conclude their interview with a conversation about how much Tiffany learned in the process of her therapy experience. She came to understand that her childhood experiences embedded in her certain ‘safety protocols’ that she reflexively moved into when she felt threat and that in her marriage, she need no longer do this, even though her spouse was changing. Other reflections on the value of the therapy experience and how ‘worth it’ it was for her.
Valerie and Tiffany explore more deeply into Tiffany’s life story to help Tiffany understand the nature of her deep fear around her husband’s faith transition. Her commitment to her (their) faith and their love for each other both helped her feel safe. If he changed, could she still feel safe and protected? They talk about this exploration.
Join Valerie Hamaker and Dr. Todd Frye as they dive deeper in the dynamics of Tera’s journey. Highlights include a discussion of how Tera was able to navigate the ending of her marriage peacefully, feeling confidence that she had truly given it her best efforts and allowed him opportunities to do the same.
