Why Young Adults Are Craving Real Connection in the LDS Church

In a world dominated by social media, quick interactions, and digital communication, one might assume that young adults are more connected than ever. But this surface-level connection often masks a deeper need for meaningful relationships—especially within spiritual communities like the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (LDS). Young adults are seeking something more substantial, more real, and more lasting: a true sense of belonging and authentic connection.

Valerie and Patrick Mason discussed this issue in an earlier podcast episode on the blog, particularly how the LDS Church can better meet the needs of young adults (and all congregants!) by creating spaces that encourage real connection.

Patrick, who regularly mentors young adults, has noticed a strong desire for genuine relationships where they can express their spiritual questions and doubts without fear of judgment or alienation. The message is clear: LDS young adults crave more than just a religious structure; they want relationships that foster understanding, growth, and trust.

young adults reading religious text

The Desire for Authentic Relationships

Many young adults in the LDS Church grew up in tightly-knit communities where everyone knew each other, shared common beliefs, and followed a well-trodden path. But as they transition into adulthood, some begin to experience faith shifts, new perspectives, or doubts. This can lead to feelings of isolation if they don’t feel comfortable discussing these challenges with their peers or leaders.

At the heart of their spiritual journey is a need for real connection—one where they can talk openly about their experiences, struggles, and evolving beliefs. In his gatherings with young adults, Patrick has witnessed a yearning for honest, face-to-face conversations, where they feel heard, understood, and supported. It’s not enough to offer well-meaning advice or doctrinal solutions; they need safe spaces for genuine dialogue.

The Limitations of Surface-Level Interaction

In many religious settings, the focus is often on maintaining unity and peace, which can sometimes discourage tough conversations or open questioning. This leads to interactions that feel safe but lack depth. When tough issues or doubts are swept under the rug, young adults can feel disconnected from their community, even as they continue to participate in outwardly religious activities.

Surface-level interaction—whether through brief social media exchanges or polite conversations at church—fails to meet the deep need for real connection. While these interactions might keep the peace, they don’t provide the space for vulnerability and authenticity that young adults crave. Patrick points out that without this real connection, young adults can begin to feel spiritually stagnant or isolated, causing some to drift away from the Church altogether.

a group of young adults discussing important topics

Creating Safe Spaces for Meaningful Dialogue

To foster the real connections young adults are seeking, it’s essential to create safe, open spaces for dialogue—places where young people can express their thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or repercussions. These spaces can take many forms: small gatherings in homes, one-on-one conversations, or informal discussions where the focus is on listening, not correcting.

Patrick emphasizes that these gatherings are not about forcing young adults into a specific mold or convincing them to see things a certain way. Instead, they are about allowing them to explore their faith in a more personal and authentic way. The key to success in these spaces is genuine curiosity and openness. Young adults want to know that their voices matter and that their unique experiences are valued, even if they diverge from the norm.

Why Real Connection Matters

Real connection goes beyond polite conversation—it involves vulnerability, empathy, and trust. When young adults feel truly connected to their church community, they are more likely to stay engaged, even when they encounter doubts or challenges. They know they have a support system that will walk alongside them, not just when things are going well, but also when their spiritual journey takes unexpected turns.

More importantly, real connection helps young adults develop a more resilient and authentic faith. By engaging in honest conversations and relationships, they learn that it’s okay to question, explore, and even disagree. This type of faith is not built on conformity but on deep personal conviction, forged through real experiences and genuine connection with others.

a worshipping group of young adults and older adults.

Moving Forward with Intention

For the LDS Church to meet the needs of young adults, leaders and mentors must intentionally create opportunities for real connection. This means:

  • Prioritizing face-to-face gatherings: While online interactions have their place, nothing beats the depth of real, in-person conversations where individuals can express themselves fully.
  • Encouraging open dialogue: Leaders and mentors should model openness and curiosity, showing that it’s okay to ask tough questions and explore difficult topics.
  • Fostering a culture of empathy: Rather than rushing to provide answers or solutions, mentors should focus on listening with empathy and understanding.

By creating these spaces, the LDS Church can help young adults feel a stronger sense of belonging and connection. When young people know they are valued for who they are, not just for how well they fit into a prescribed mold, they are more likely to stay engaged, grow spiritually, and contribute to the vibrancy of the church community.

Real connection is what young adults crave—and it’s what will help them thrive in their spiritual lives and within the LDS Church. As Valerie and Patrick remind us, creating these meaningful relationships takes time, effort, and a willingness to embrace tough conversations, but the rewards are immeasurable. By investing in authentic connection, the Church can build a stronger, more resilient community for generations to come.